Self-Discovery
You don’t have to keep wondering if it’s “just you.”
The CS-RIDS-24 is a powerful self-assessment that helps put words to the confusion, loneliness, and exhaustion that can come from being in a relationship with a neurodivergent partner.
In just 5–7 minutes, you’ll get insight into your emotional experience—and a clearer path forward.
Take the first step toward feeling understood.
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Cassandra Syndrome - Relationship & Identity Distress Scale (CS-RIDS-24)
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Approximate time: 5-7 minutes to respond to 24 questions.
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This self-assessment is designed to measure the emotional and relational impact of being in a partnership with someone who may be on the autism spectrum (or otherwise neurodivergent).
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Subscales: It explores four key areas ("subscales"):
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relational distress
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identity erosion
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communication and validation
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coping and resilience
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Understanding your scores:
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For your Total Score:
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Add the scores from all 24 items to get a total ranging from 24–120.
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Higher total scores indicate more significant Cassandra-related distress.
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General guidelines (not rigid cut-offs):
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89-120: Severe Cassandra-Related Distress
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57–88: Moderate Cassandra-Related Distress
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24–56: No Cassandra-Related Distress
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For Subscale Scores:
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Each subscale’s range: 6–30.
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Interpretation Guide:
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6–13: Low Distress
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14–22: Moderate Distress
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23–30: Severe Distress
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A higher subscale score indicates more distress (except that “Coping & Resilience” measures a mix of strain and resilience, but higher scores there still reflect greater overall difficulties).
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Disclaimer:
This assessment is intended for informational and self-reflection purposes only.
It was developed by our clinical team as a tool to help individuals better understand their current experience of trust disruption following betrayal in a relationship.
It is not a diagnostic tool and does not replace professional mental health care, therapy, or medical advice. Results should be interpreted with care and may not reflect all aspects of your situation or relationship dynamics.
Example to Illustrate Subscale Scoring:
